Day 3 of my Month of Hundreds. If not for the demands of this project, I might not have left the house today. But duty called, and also we were getting low on coffee. Â Louise and I decided to walk down to Peet’s on Broadway, less than a mile away.
As we meandered through our well-kept neighborhood I couldn’t help but consider every person who walked or drove by. Lots of young families, strollers, men in cars. I realized how uncomfortable it would feel to approach someone appearing to be well-to-do; would they be insulted by my gesture? What does that mean?
I considered a woman sitting at the bus stop, her young daughter poking in the dirt next to the bench. A studious-appearing young man sitting outside Peet’s caught my eye, then the voice in my head reminded me that it’s the smokers who tend to sit outside. I thought how stupid my prejudice against smokers is, and kept walking. Louise and I got our coffee and then realized we were both starving.
We got burritos next door and sat down. There was a small crowd watching a football game in the bar but otherwise the place was empty. I was just starting to eat when I saw a young family walking by. A tall, thin woman in a colorful headscarf, a man and their two sons ages five and seven or so. Ethiopian? I wondered. Then I noticed the way both boys were holding onto their father’s large right hand. “I’ll be right back!”, I told Louise and bolted out the door. I didn’t want to seem to be sneaking up behind them so I walked quickly past and then turned around. I stood there as they walked closer, and could hear the woman speaking softly to the children. I worried that maybe they didn’t speak English.
“Excuse me,” I said. They stopped and I saw how beautiful the woman was. “This might sound a little strange.” She smiled, just a little. “I’m giving some gifts in honor of my mother, who died a few months ago.” “Oh, I am sorry!”, said the woman, and the man said, “I am sorry.” I pressed the folded up bill into the woman’s hand. “I would like you to have this.” I could tell she didn’t want to look at it too openly but she snuck a glance and said “Oh! Thank you! We’ll go school shopping!” She looked down at the older boy, who was squeezed shyly against his father’s side. “Say thank you!”, she said. Â She gave me a big hug and then said, again, “I am sorry about your mother.”
The woman was clearly grateful but didn’t seem surprised. I like to imagine that, in their world, wonderful and unexpected things happen routinely. How lovely for those boys to grow up with a mother who takes the kindness of strangers in stride.
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A fascinating idea, and wonderfully written. I thought you might like this quotation I came across today:
“It is more difficult to give money away intelligently than it is to earn it in the first place.”
— Andrew Carnegie (1835-1919)
I love the quote!
Yes, to possess the gift of being able to accept grace gracefully is huge.
I started reading your entries today and just couldn’t leave them! Yesterday was my mother’s birthday (23rd)She died 27 years ago and I still miss her…so perhaps I was “ripe” for your wonderful, heartwarming stories. I have laughed out loud many times (loved your quote about a dog not being surprised to receive $100)and have been totally refreshed…now into your September entries–haven’t checked to see how far back these will go! I could be on my couch for hours! Hope you are having a lovely day!
Judith- Thank you so much for reading! I know I still miss my Dad after over 35 years. I don’t think we ever stop missing them. Very best wishes- Jill